
The Adapted Life, Finding Next
I’m Julie Hasselberger. For 26 years, I was the full-time caregiver for my beloved son Daniel, whose life was marked by profound disability and extraordinary beauty. This podcast began as a way to support other parents navigating the complex, often isolating world of special needs caregiving. But life changed — heartbreakingly and irrevocably — when my son passed away.
Now, The Adapted Life, Finding Next is a space for truth-telling, tenderness, and transformation. It’s about what comes after the role that once defined you is gone. It’s about grief, relational trauma, resilience, and the raw, ongoing search for next — for purpose, healing, and connection.
If you’re facing a season of reckoning, rebuilding, or rediscovery, I invite you to walk with me. You are not alone. This is the adapted life… and together, we’ll find what comes next.
The Adapted Life, Finding Next
WHAT WE CARRY FORWARD
In this episode, I had been pondering the work I've been doing on self-love and releasing attachments. I asked myself, what does this mean to caregivers who carry with them a lifetime of changes that traumatically altered the course of their lives.
While I do believe that letting go of attachments that result in negative results, is important, we also can't always do it so easily. In accepting and sending love to these "attachments", we allow ourselves to heal, to learn from them, and to be aware and grateful for the positive ways our life has been enhanced by them. Even though, yes, great pain. Great grief.
So often as I work on myself, I find concepts that become a bit convoluted and challenging. This is is one of them. As special needs parents, caregivers, we are literally attached to our loved one, because we are responsible for keeping them alive.
The RSV Super Bowl Sunday Story. I told the story of the very beginning of my trauma with my son Daniel, when he was 8 weeks old. It is so fresh in my mind, and very hard to let go of. In telling the story, I found myself feeling such appreciation and love and empathy for younger Julie. and John. And what they went through. I sent that story some love. But I believe it will be forever a part of me and who I have become as a human.
I hope you enjoy the episode. If you have a story that you would like to tell, or would like me to read for you, feel free to email me at juliehasselberger@gmail.com
You can follow my you tube channel or instagram. Sending love from my adapted life here in Sandy Hook, CT. Keep moving forward with love and gratitude. XOXOXO
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